What I don't discuss very often

Baseball, wedgies, my secret love of sloppy joes, my fear of clowns...actually there are many things I do not discuss very often.

I don't blog much about dating. In part because a few dates may read my blog or friends of dates may read my blog. Until I am comfortable talking with a date I will always blog about them to random people I don't know surfing the internet who may stumble upon my blog which may discuss details of dates about people they do not know...that really isn't a reason. But I do error on the side privacy for reasons only God knows why.

I recently met a wonderful woman who I had a huge crush for and was very interested in getting to know. I have not had a crush in years. The sign you meet someone special is when they make you feel like how you felt as a kid when you had a crush on someone. The first time I met her we engaged in small talk and I did the ring check. At my age you have to check for a ring as many a nice woman are married (The good ones are usually taken).

The first time we met I did not see a ring. The second time we met I did see a ring, and a photo, and we had a discussion about her kids. Which were good signs that things were not going to work out between us.

I could not figure out why she was not wearing her wedding ring the first we met. I spoke with an older wiser woman who suggested that it is possible the ring was being cleaned by a professional cleaner which would explain why she was not wearing the ring. I then recieved a ten minute lecture about the importance of clean shiney wedding rings to a married woman (I am glad it was explained to me but I still do not get it).

Realistically there maybe even more reasons why she was not wearing her wedding ring (it was lost, they had a fight & she took it off, she may have a weird habit of not wearing it at work, etc., etc., etc.,). The lesson I learned is not only to do a wedding ring check once but multiple times. At least twice or until I see photos of the spouse and hear about children. Those facts clear up everything a wedding ring will clearly not uncover!